Well Its me again, with my first post in the After section which I am pretty excited about.
So heres how it went, we go infront of the judge, my ex was pro se, and me with my lawyer. Well right off the judge does not like the aggrement and asks the nutjob if she had an attorny she said she tried to get one but couldnt (her deffinition of tried must be different the most peoples). Any way so the lawyer continues reading the aggrement and finally asks my council, "Does she get anything in here?" Our response was "No, your honor" Which I at the time was quite happy to say! So after quite a bit of back and forth with the judge about drug debts incurred by my ex which I am taking on he seemed to lighten off the money thing. But my ex is crying her bloodshot eyes out. So we get to the part where he is asking us if we both agree to all the stuff in the divorce, when my wifes response in not "yes your honor" like everyone else, she pulled a "whatever I just want to see my kids" At which point the judge re reads the < parenting time > section and changes it, and sends us to Family relations to work up a new agreement or for a study to begin.
I was so mad, I was so close to everything I wanted, and out of all people the Judge is the one to F it up for me. Anyway so we go to family relations and I had worked in some compromise room in my < parenting time > agreement. So I had her and the family relations people who actually reviewed all my notes of the extensive drug and criminal history of my ex, come to an agreement that she would finish her drug treatment and finish her criminal probation and she could begin the vistiation(this would be in about 9 months). We all agree, and go back before the judge, what heppens... he denys it again and makes us put in that we will review it again in 3 months to start supervised < parenting time > at this facility that does handles supervised visits.
I mean I know my agreement was heavily weighted in my favor, but I am just so upset that a judge would overrule the agreement, and then overrule a second revised agreement with family relations support, all to give the nutjob < parenting time > that she was not even pushing to get. Are judges usually like this or is it just becasue she is a pro se drug addict that he is taking like simpathy on her or something. I mean I had every right to request a hearing, either today for his ammendment to the agreement or in 3 months if the < parenting time > is ordered, which I certainly will do if she makes it that long. But I was so close of being done it really chaps my < edited > that I got the judge like this.
Anyway thanks for listening love to hear what you all think