tightspot wrote:There is zero bad mommy dirt. She's done this part of her job well.
The experience of the forum is that bad mommy dirt (aside from drugs, alcohol, suicide risk etc) is not the strategy that results in a good custody result for Dads. Promoting Dad and showing the status quo of your current parenting arrangement are what get a decent result. If your STBX is carrying on her 3rd affair is it safe to assume that she spends considerable time away from the marital home and your daughter? If that is the case and you have a school age daughter I think you'd be surprised if you looked at the actual hours in the day that her SAHM role matters.
On the negative side your commute definitely hurts your chances. With 50/50 custody how will you handle mornings getting your daughter ready for school and still make it to work on time. How about after school, will she go to aftercare or would the ex pick her up until you made it home? The judge will want to hear your anticipated daily routine in a 50/50 custody situation.