Lives in Ohio, doing a dissolution pro se. I have a 401k with only $7k. My employer wants to charge me between $750 - $1500 to review and approve a QDRO, plus I'll need to pay a lawyer just as much to draw the QDRO, plus my time and aggravation. That would wipe 1/2 off the value before any distribution, RIDICULOUS.
So I just wanna do (a lump sum cash buy out) for 1/2 of my 401k, say $3500, stbx agrees.
Thing is I don't have $3500 lump sum right now to give her, my question is:
#1- would the judge agree for me to pay the $3500 in monthly installment, say $200 a month (stbx is ok with it).
#2- Would I be allowed to pay it directly to her as it is a property settlement not alimony, (cause in ohio when there's child support, alimony has to be attached to it) however we agree on no alimony.
#3- she will stay in the family home with the kids untill the house is sold in 1yr, I'm paying cs. But I also agree to provide monthly 25% ($280) of the mortgage payment. Does that get pay directly to her or will the court force me to get it deducted directly thru my payroll like child support.
Anyone with any insight or experience with this please help, thanks!