NJ has started a new job, full time. Basically, she's doubled her current income. She will need to move and I gave prior permission in our Decree, provided she adheres to State statutes regarding relocation. Of course, first thing she does is buy a brand new car and start looking for a place to live. It's come to light (my 23 year old son spilled it) that NOW she realizes that "oh shyte, I didn't really do the math on my living expenses and things will be tight." Naturally, I'm sure she can't fathom maybe working a second job to help support herself. She's the classic definition of an entitled narcissist.
I was Pro Se and we worked out everything in mediation when we were divorcing. She and her attorney proposed that when my kids started college, child support would cease, even though the child was not 21. She said "I don't think either of us should pay each other if the child is self-sufficient and not living at home." I thought that was a really fair concession. Thus, it was written as so and 3 months after the divorce, one of the kids dropped from support.
So, I reached out and said we need to modify the custody arrangement and support, which will now result in more overnights for me (may not make sense, but our original custody plan was goofy) and of course, higher income for her and the same for me, meaning CS will decrease fairly significantly.
I'm sure you can guess what her response was? Yes, she said that she didn't think CS needed to change and that she really "made a mistake" with the college concession and now is pondering trying to modify things to ADD that child back into the mix. My son said she is freaking out and cannot afford an attorney. Of course, a scared animal is a dangerous one.
Is that even a possibility? THEY proposed the arrangement and now that she cannot make it, she wants to change it? I would think the judge would see right through that and wonder how someone could make MORE money and then want MORE CS because she cannot manage her finances, especially considering it was her provision in the first place.
Has anyone had an experience like this? Thanks!