The only thing I was going to add to the above support was to make sure you had written documentation of her refusal to allow phone contact. The primary argument against your asserting your rights as the father is going to be lack of contact in the past. That you have attempted, and had it refused, is key to show to the court.
Also something I didn't glean from your above posts -- has paternity been legally established? Am assuming so, if you are paying CS. So I am assuming some existing court order exists on CS and, hopefully, at least allows you to have some parenting time. Please advise status of any orders that have already been issued, even if its as simple as a CS order or order establishing paternity, as that establishes the "go-forward" base line from which you are seeking modification. Any parenting plan or schedule of any kind?
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