Seeking help wrote:Ok here goes and this is hard for me I have been married for 17 yrs have two kids boy 16 girl 13. I am considering a divorce for several reasons and need some advice. Trying to approach this through a cost benefit analysis to take the emotion out of it and am thinking I'm stuck in a loveless marriage because a divorce would ruin me financially. Can give more details if needed
If you're looking at this purely from a financial standpoint, a divorce is going to cost you. You're talking about going from one household, to two households (you'll have to get your own place)...where you'll have to pay not only for your "new" life...but your old one as well.
This is one situation where, in my opinion, emotion does factor into it. Are you completely miserable in your marriage? Do you find yourself daydreaming about how much better your life would be without your wife in it? etc. I'm talking beyond a "loveless" marriage...I'm talking about a marriage that induces so much stress that it literally causes physical and psychological side effects.
If she's not giving you loving, you can always wait until she's asleep...flip her over...and PIITB. That'll learn