I have plans this weekend with the kiddos, and was discussing them with STBX (her iniatating the discussion). D10 was in the room as we were discussing, and STBX seemed interested in our adventure.
I figured what the answer would be, but I asked anyway: Would you like to come with us?
The answer was instantaneous, 'No'. My offer was sincere, in that if she wanted to come, I would have welcomed her and made sure she had a good time with the kids, and was truly hoping she'd say yes for the kids. But my daughter was really upset by STBX's answer, and talked with her mom shortly afterwards about why she doesn't do things with her, S6 and me anymore.
Things have been this way over 6 months now, so D10 knows has a good inkling of what's going on. It was STBX's move to divorce, as I had already resigned to the fact that a less than stellar marriage was better than not seeing my kids at least half the time. But was it a stinky move, or not? I hoped for the best, but also pretty much knew what the outcome would be.
Audaces fortuna iuvat.
The meaning of life is Happiness. What makes you happy? - Dalai Lama
For a more peaceful life, live the serenity prayer.