The way I did it I made sure I was gone when she came to my 4 bdrm house with 2 moving trucks and a crew. Since I wasn't there she can't say I stopped her from taking anything or that we argued over anything.
The funnyest part was she took my deep freezer and fridge and left all the food on the floor.
And even better, back when we were happily married we moved and put our old house up for rent. Her parents went there, took our washer and dryer, replaced them with their broken ones.
It's just hilarious when I think about how lucky I am to be done with all that.