The sbux and I separated in January. In march she said she was going to file for divorce. A month later she still hadn't. Before she filed I found out from my kids she was having a guy stay over nearly every night the last week she watched them. During this time I had paid all our bills as she was only working part time. She just found a full time job about the same time I found out this dude was staying over everyday. We were trying to be amicable and do without lawyers for kids sake. She had agreed to my proposed settlement in principle. But now I'm pissed it's bad enough she is having a relationship so soon after separating (swears it started after we separated) but to have some guy she has known for two months or less spend the night nearly every night with two young daughters 6 & 3 can not be good for them. Even if he's not a horrible guy there is no way this relationship is going to last. What's worst said he only stayed one night on coach and just found out that the following week that the four of them went to the coast for the weekend. Now I can't trust her, she a liar and having some guy regularly spend the night with my kids. We have had 50/50 custody since we separated even though I was working 60 hours a week for two months of it and she was working maybe 30 hours a week. I just can't see how she is paying any attention to our daughters if this new dude is there 24/7. I am now inclined to not give her a penny from here on out, hire a lawyer and go to war. This can't look good can it from a custody perspective? You Just get a new demanding job that means you see your kids less and what do you do with your free time with your kids you spend it with this new dude instead? I take my vacations to spend with daughters and do most of my work the nights I don't have them. I had offered a 2 year transition alimony but now I don't think she deserves a thing especially if their pseudo living together. I want to hire lawyers, seek sole custody, split our debt and not give her a penny in alimony. Is this going to back fire on me? I just don't think I can even speak with her anymore. Thoughts?