My NJ has been making a series of bad financial decisions and generally is very agitated and stressed about her financial situation (though she has cash in the bank, she won't touch it). This rubs off on S13, who is with her half the time. He sees me doing reasonably well, we want for nothing, live in a nice house, eat well, and bills are paid, and I can take him out to do fun things. This is partly because I actually work (NJ is still looking) and partly because I've made more sane financial decisions. The atmosphere at my place tends to be optimistic and happy, but I can't say the same at NJ's place.
S13 is anxious when with NJ, worries about money a lot, and he seems to pick up a lot on her blaming me for the mess she's in. It breaks my heart to see how stressed he becomes. NJ of course is trying to guilt me into increasing spousal support due to the mess she's in (but that's a separate topic).
Anybody else been in a similar situation? How do you help your kids feel better about the disparity in living situations? How do I help him without caving in to her guilt trip?