Thanks Bart. Not too cheap, just wasted $6,000 and not trusting. I should state that my ex has lived with our daughter out of state for 5 years without an order. I didn't argue about her leaving as I got to spend school breaks and summers. Being out of state is not really an issue. She basically moved back to town and filed legal action 5 months later. The main thing she was looking for was an increase in support. However, we are in TN and now we have to file a Perm. Parenting Plan. Her attorney told me not to nit-pick and I am not. I talked to him for 10 minutes regarding the plan and told him what I would like. I have sent him my PPP according to the local rules and TN rules of civil procedure. I come from a law enforcement background and have been reading / interpreting / applying / enforcing for 20 years.
I really don't mind much of their demands and I am reasonably making concessions. However, her counsel is noe taking advantage and asking that I sign documents or suffer the financial consequences.
Our daughter is 14 and the support has never been modified. According to the state CS worksheet, the ex is entitled to a $167 a month increase. I am fine with that. However, I have asked that she cover half of the travel expenses related to < parenting time > as they will be out of state. He is wanting me to cover 100%. I then told him if we do that, the CS modification would actually decrease his clients monthly amount. The sad thing is, my ex and I discussed the case and we agreed to settle. She even sent an email to him and ask that he terminate the proceedings and just settle. He called her and said, "but you can get more". He is essentially dragging this out and creating documents, which cost her attorney fees. I want to settle this debacle as quickly as possible, but I don't want opposing counsel to take advantage. I lost the temp support hearing based on an error of my own and I am fine with that. I gave her counsel a 3 hour fight, but got stuck with $900 in his fees. It was worth it to have the ex squirming on the stand and looking worse a fool than me. It was worth the judge, bailiffs and her own attorney tell her to be quiet 12+ times. It was worth standing there in open court and explaining her greed and bad decisions without her being able to say a word.
I'm sure I pissed off opposing counsel by raising 15 objections in 3 hours, sustaining 10. I have tried to prep myself for days. I have taken advantage of the law library at the courthouse and read 100s of legal documents, decisions and similar cases online. I am fortunate that I have a job where I can make my own hours.
Is there a way to file a temporary injunction that would issue a stay against opposing counsel presenting documents in court without my presence as Pro Se Counsel? He basically wants to enter the order from the divorce referee, which I have no problem signing. However, he also slid in the line that I be responsible for all costs associated with this action. I think his client should pay all costs, but I am willing to go 1/2.