Been divorced now for around 18 months. The wife left the family home and took our children out of state. After which, she largely refused < parenting time > accept under limited circumstances with her supervising. She was documented lying on multiple occasions, and filed several false cases with CPS in order to get an upper hand in custody. Although not a psychiatrist, I would label her with NPD, with a terrible, typical American Woman sense of self entitlement; and no morals to boot.
I studied "the list" extensively, and was able to use this website to retain one of the best attorney's in my area. Unfortunately, we got stuck with a really old fashioned judge that ordered EOW + 1 weeknight in the temporary orders. Because of her lies, and the skill of my attorney, we were able to turn things around somewhat. Net < parenting time > is at 38/62 her favor in the final divorce decree. That is how biased the feminized family court system is in America. The judge knew she was lying out of her < hindquarters > the whole time, and even seemed to actually like me during the trial.
1 - I am overpaying approx $100 to $200 a month in child support based upon the state guidelines. How soon is too soon to ask to get this changed, and can I precede with this without an attorney?
2 - Would it make more sense to open up the can of works again, and fight for more time? The NJ and I have been getting along pretty well for the last year, and my sense is if I went back into court for more custody, it will be a huge fight again. I don't like the NJ, I actually detest her in many ways, but would like to be on good terms to limit my children to fighting & turmoil. Note on this: NJ actually asks me to take the children for extra days when she has stuff going on.
3 - I am utterly broke right now, and had to file for bankruptcy right after the divorce was final. I drained my 401K and borrowed from family to pay off the initial attorney fees, and get to where I am at today. Retaining an attorney at this point is not an option, and won't be for the next 2 years or so.
Side note: NJ is getting remarried in a few months. There haven’t been any issues thus far with the new beau.