I have been through this with others hundreds of times...because of what I do for a living.
You're a divorce attorney?!
No, but I work closely with the family law court. I'm hesitant to make broad proclamations because a divorce attorney actually investigated me at one point prior to stipulating to me as an expert witness in a semi-related field.
I know the drill...and I am actually trying hard not to be "militant" in this process. I want to maintain my integrity and character while not becoming a doormat.
I was not built for divorce; I suppose none of us were. We went through this years ago and "kind of" recovered. Now I know we didn't. That's why it's not the court that scares me; its the sense of loss and failure. Thus my profile name "Not_me". Arrogance or ignorance; not sure which one. Maybe "naive" is more appropriate.
Ever notice how the separation leaves you feeling so often very empty inside? My life is full of support but I have the "water, water everywhere, not a drop to drink" syndrome.
I have friends continuously availing themselves, but my heart is not filled by friendship. Anyone ever feel that? I hope that there is good news that the feeling goes away or at least gets better.