BartSimpson wrote:Where is his Dad, and what does his Dad have to say about all this?
Dad is around but not a limit setter at all. Points the finger to mom to be bad guy. Wants to be seen as a "friend", hang out, watch TV/movies/youtube, play xbox with boys than be a father
If you had to choose between your GF and your kids, who would you choose?
Sounds like she's made the choice of being a parent to her kid first and a GF to you second. Doesn't sound like she's being selfish, although its arguable that she should lighten up a bit and let the kid explore his girlfriend in private
I wouldn't expect her to pick me. Maybe you misunderstood. It isn't about her wanting to be with them as a parent. It's about his dictating the terms I have a concern about. Again, a parental style issue. If my son (now 14) was 17, came to me and said "I'm bringing over Julie Saturday night" and I had plans with GF, I'd tell him he needs to find other plans elsewhere instead of cancelling my plans. You can ask me but don't tell me you're doing something then expect me to be like "Ok son. Whatever you want"
Yes a little frustrated