BMEWS wrote:threatened that if I return to the house I will be arrested for Domestic Criminal Trespassing.
If there is no court order, she has no cause for arrest. Keep the recorder running and simply go about your business, in YOUR OWN home. You can expect her to call the police, and they may even try to convince you to leave to keep the peace. Be polite, but firm. This is your home and there are no court orders barring you from it.
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