Fatheroffour wrote:The system seems to be set up for the general rule or mom caring for the kids and dad bringing home the bacon. That's the source of a lot of discussion around here and seen as 'not fair'.
I'll be objective here. I think the CS system is fair as far as equality between genders. CS is just a number in the computer and so are we. If NCP doesn't pay, an automatic notice gets mailed. The system isn't designed to flag a notice if it's a female.
Where it is flawed, in my opinion and experience, is when the CS award is deviated because of numerous issues. If the CP goes into court and claims they are broke and can somehow manipulate the judge, the NCP will get hit with a higher amount of CS. It's happened to me personally.
I know this is a little OT from the original post but there needs to be more scrutiny when it comes to a deviation or allowing a CP to be on welfare. A perfect example is my lazy a$s ex-wife. Even though she was getting $1050 a month from me in CS, they still gave her food stamps, cash assistance, reduced rent (I'm 90% sure of that), reduced school lunches, reduced day care expenses and free medical. To me that sounds crazy. A few months before she applied for welfare, she quit her job where she was making $45K per year.
If a person who has any common sense looks at her life, you will see that she doesn't need to be on welfare. She is just a lazy NJ. If they looked at her life, you would see that she went on two vacations for a total of four weeks in 2011, without the kids. You will see that she lives in a luxury apartment. You will see the kind of clothes that she wears. When you compile all of that information, it is really easy for any objective person with a shred of common sense to see that NJ doesn't need to be on welfare and she is just sucking on the tit of the state. Yeah, I guess I was a little bitter because I couldn't afford to pay certain bills and was working my tail off while she gets to sit at home and go on vacations. Hell, I haven't had a vacation in two years and I have a good job!
I guess my point is, CS awards should be by the numbers. If there is any deviation requested, they should have a PI look into this persons life. I know that will never happen but I'd have to believe that a large portion of people who are requesting a deviation from the standard CS number are hiding income, assets or something else in order to not pay CS (NCP) or in the case of the CP to get more in CS. It's a game. Period.
The same thing applies to people who want to go on welfare. If they are requesting it, open up your life. Lets look at your bank accounts for the past three years, your debts, your lifestyle, where you go at night, what your education level is, who your friends are, etc, etc, etc. It bothers me a lot because I know there are people who really need welfare and people like my ex-wife are taking resources away from the those who really need it.
People on welfare should be owned by the government.