Which is exactly what I think STBXNJ is thinking for me. However, if I get 55/45, I can stay in my house and give the kids a stable home. She won't be able to afford it even if I pay her CS. Sucks to be her. Heck, even if I have the joint 50/50, I can afford a small place of my own, should I be able to get out of the underwater home. I will actually have more $$ once divorced, which sounds really weird, but if we're sitting costs for childcare, etc., I might just be thanking her after all of this!!! lol
(Although I would prefer to reconcile, since our relationship, from my perspective, wasn't unsalvageable. Because that is what is truly best for the kiddos. But there's the most likely Mr. W affecting things, which if confirmed, would make me hold her over a barrel to get everything I want.)
Audaces fortuna iuvat.
The meaning of life is Happiness. What makes you happy? - Dalai Lama
For a more peaceful life, live the serenity prayer.