Rocko1 wrote:I come to pick them up she just stands there saying they don't want to go, it's not me saying that, it's them. Is that enough of her interfering for the courts to recognize?
You then politely remind her, with your voice recorder running, that, until the court order is amended to provide that the children have a say in the matter, they have no choice. Should the children not be provided for your parenting time, you will document the denial of access and her failure to facilitate the child's relationship with you by suggesting they have a choice in whether or not they abide by a court order.
Simply put, a 9y/o has no choice in whether or not they go with the NCP for their parenting time. Actually a 14y/o has no choice as well, so long as the court order doesn't provide that they do have a choice.
Put the onus back where is belongs, being her. It is her failure to facilitate your relationship by suggesting they have a choice that has brought caused this issue. What she is doing is not in the kids best interests, and be sure to document and record all instances of this manner. The judge won't like to hear that mom is saying the kids don't have to go with you when the judge says they do.