My Wife and I are separating. After ten years of not being listened too, and 4 months of couples therapy, and nothing changing, things are getting more tense for me. I needed to get some space on my own to deal with the life I never wanted, and after telling my wife that is what I need for 4 months, I signed a lease on an apartment 2 miles from the current place.
There was already a plan for her to take the kids to Ireland for Christmas, to be with her family. Now she is there, and she now says she is talking with solicitors there, and that she is not coming home with the kids. She has now taken the kids from me, 7000 miles, and is refusing to come back home. She has home, broken up things good now, and is going about destroying the kids life. We had told the kids about the separation before going, and had worked on trying to make any problems as simple and smooth as possible for the kids. The morning before they went, they were really only curious about the new apartment. Now I have no idea how she is messing with the kids.
What are my next steps from here? I'm in California, what can or should be done to put things on a more legal basis for custody? No idea what to do, or what is really happening here.