Movers coming, No final agreement

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Re: Movers coming, No final agreement

Unread postby Snowblower » Fri Nov 03, 2017 3:14 pm

MegaDad wrote:OP, others who have expressed concern for your....less than aggressive attitude make good points. Points you should absolutely mull over and act on.

But just to switch gears here for a minute, her moving some of the kids' stuff out from under you could be a blessing in disguise. Take this chance to recreate their space in your home, and let them be a big part of that process! I am sorry I don't remember your kids' ages, but any child would love to be in charge of how their space looks and feels. If funds allow, go whole hog and repaint bedrooms, move stuff around, whatever needs replacing make a big deal out of it and go out for ice cream afterward. Silver linings right?


I am mulling hence why I am on here. Your other point, absolutely... I stayed home yesterday with my son and we put together new tables, made some forts and discussed some plans that they can. It honestly feels really good getting all of her *&^ out of there.
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Re: Movers coming, No final agreement

Unread postby massdad1234 » Fri Nov 03, 2017 7:13 pm

OP - you're all over the place. You need to focus, lock in what the heck you want, have your attorney draft it up and cut to the chase aka grab it by the horns. Put together a shared parenting plan that puts the kids best interests based on status quo. It really isn't that hard. Just because she filed first doesn't mean you can't drive the bus.

What exactly are you waiting for? Temp orders 50/50, holidays - any reason not every other? asset/debts 50/50 start making a list of household items you would like. What exactly is the hold up?
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Re: Movers coming, No final agreement

Unread postby Snowblower » Fri Nov 03, 2017 7:37 pm

We have done all that, almost 2 months ago I gave her a settlement agreement. She has not responded formally, just keeps telling me she wants more $$ which I told her no. I was getting ready to do temp orders to get her out of the house but now I do not have to. Lawyers are saying to just chill and do nothing but smile and nod, she will eventually need money and will respond. I just want this thing over.
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Re: Movers coming, No final agreement

Unread postby massdad1234 » Sun Nov 05, 2017 1:21 pm

So change the locks.
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Re: Movers coming, No final agreement

Unread postby SoxFan1986 » Mon Nov 13, 2017 8:13 am

Any update on the Locks?
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Re: Movers coming, No final agreement

Unread postby Snowblower » Thu Nov 16, 2017 10:43 am

Yes and she does not know yet and will freak out when she goes to get in and cannot.

Years ago when we were dating and not married she pulled the whole I am leaving thing and I changed the locks and she freaked out then, this will be interesting. :lol:
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Re: Movers coming, No final agreement

Unread postby massdad1234 » Thu Nov 16, 2017 11:06 am

stop renting space in your head for her thoughts/concerns
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Re: Movers coming, No final agreement

Unread postby MegaDad » Thu Nov 16, 2017 11:09 am

Any reason why she would need to return to your home? She moved out.
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Re: Movers coming, No final agreement

Unread postby Snowblower » Thu Nov 16, 2017 2:15 pm

Need, No. there are things she will still want and keep comin back which is why I changed them.
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Re: Movers coming, No final agreement

Unread postby massdad1234 » Thu Nov 16, 2017 2:50 pm

sounds like leverage to me. She can want in one hand and shat in the other, we know which will fill up first.
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