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Re: in middle of custody / money battle

Unread postby Welcome123 » Mon Oct 02, 2017 8:26 am

Paternity wasn't established, aside from him looking exactly like me, now I plan on doing it. I never even considered he wouldn't be mine.
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Re: in middle of custody / money battle

Unread postby BartSimpson » Mon Oct 02, 2017 8:39 am

It's more about the mother's behavior with the infant child and excluding you - that's the tell. Quietly do the testing privately (at home test kit you mail to the lab), tell no one! If the results establish your paternity, never speak of it again. If not, call your attorney.

We have a wonderful member here who adopted a son, guess what people tell him all the time? His son looks just like him.
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Re: in middle of custody / money battle

Unread postby Welcome123 » Mon Oct 02, 2017 8:41 am

What's that? Either way he will always be my son.
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Re: in middle of custody / money battle

Unread postby BartSimpson » Mon Oct 02, 2017 8:43 am

Let's cross that bridge when the time comes. That's why I emphasized that you keep it quiet.
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Re: in middle of custody / money battle

Unread postby Tom Kirkpatrick » Mon Oct 02, 2017 10:39 am

Welcome123 wrote:Not an equitable distribution case.
FYI - Parenting time has nothing to do with equitable distribution.

Welcome123 wrote:.....she decided to strictly breast feed after hiring her attorney in order to reduce my time with my son and the judge didn't want to mess with that.
That's why we recommend the "breast pump argument."

Your #1 job is to make it incumbent upon NJ to make your son available - AND hold her accountable for it. This is a best interest argument.

Welcome123 wrote:Current stipulation is I am to pay her $1500 S/S and $1500 C/S which I am totally fine with.
In this game, it's all about attitude. Being "totally fine with" status quo has gotta change, Bro.

For starters, there should be no alimony for an 8 month marriage. Second, you need to fight for more parenting time.

Welcome123 wrote:I thought both parents have equal rights?
Who told you that??

Equal rights is not a given. It's an "arguable presumption." - and she's winning the argument.

Translation = She's working her game plan. No overnights 'til son is 3?? That's BS!!

Welcome123 wrote:I offered to increase it to $3500 month once she moves out so she doesn't get taxed on the $1500. She is now saying no and wants 4k.
Be careful what you offer. The moment you offer her something, your giving will never cease.

^^^ Think of this as a "bargaining chip." If you give her this, what will you get of significance in return??

Welcome123 wrote:.....3 of those hours are spent traveling.
You need to be more available. Moving closer to your son would be a good start.

Q: Have you thought of a stepped-up parenting plan??

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Re: in middle of custody / money battle

Unread postby Welcome123 » Mon Oct 02, 2017 10:47 am

My apartment is in contract and I'm planning to move closer once I close
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Re: in middle of custody / money battle

Unread postby Trevor » Mon Oct 02, 2017 10:49 am

Tom Kirkpatrick wrote:That's why we recommend the "breast pump argument."

Your #1 job is to make it incumbent upon NJ to make your son available - AND hold her accountable for it. This is a best interest argument.

There is zero difference to the child suckling on momma's teat or sucking her breast milk from a bottle while in Daddy's arms.

I haven't researched the science but would be astonished if anyone would claim that the mutual bonding experience for the mother and child is different in any way from that of the father and child.
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Re: in middle of custody / money battle

Unread postby BartSimpson » Mon Oct 02, 2017 10:50 am

Would it be accurate for me to state that you fear the mother?
You have a female attorney, don't you?
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Re: in middle of custody / money battle

Unread postby Welcome123 » Mon Oct 02, 2017 10:55 am

There's nothing to fear, she's just a nasty, hostile individual who you can't have a rational conversation with. My attorney is
a male and my goal here was to just settle out of court but she's made that completely impossible.
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Re: in middle of custody / money battle

Unread postby BartSimpson » Mon Oct 02, 2017 11:03 am

she's just a nasty, hostile individual who you can't have a rational conversation with.
The time to decern a fitness for motherhood is before you put your penis in her vagina. This is the woman you chose to be the mother of your child, that the Court cannot unravel.

Are you familiar with the story of King Solomon's Choice?
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