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Unread postby flynwa320 » Thu Apr 20, 2017 1:15 pm

Is $3000, the last 3 child support checks, worth going to court over when the last of 3 teenage kids moves in with me due to being very uncomfortable around the NJ's boyfriend. NJ texted me and said he would be staying with me full-time. If I file Monday, I would save $3000.

Why should I pay when he lives with me 24/7 (which I love btw). Now, I have to file to stop CS and have a minimum of two hearings, but it's the idea of paying her when he's not there, that I am having trouble with.

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Re: $3000

Unread postby Fatheroffour » Thu Apr 20, 2017 1:22 pm

3000 dollars is a lot of money. I'd keep it if I could.
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Re: $3000

Unread postby lionel2013 » Thu Apr 20, 2017 1:36 pm

Keep the money.
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Re: $3000

Unread postby RockyCali » Thu Apr 20, 2017 2:00 pm

I'm coming from an angle of having just spent tens of thousands. I wouldn't want to go back to court over this. If there are hearings, you should be there, so that means 2 court appearances. If it fails, you've lost time AND the 3 grand. If it's successful, it might only apply to 1 or 2 of the payments.

If you've been making it so far, and can find a way to make it the next 3 months including being full-time host to teen, I'd just suck it up and not create another legal entanglement. You're almost there.
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Re: $3000

Unread postby JimRockford » Thu Apr 20, 2017 2:59 pm

To me it would all be about cost/benefit. Obviously, an attorney would be your biggest cost, and if the attorney's billings are going to exceed $1,500 I would not do it, as the risk of having it go against you and pay the attorney would to me not justify it. If you are going Pro Per, then what have you got to lose?
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Re: $3000

Unread postby flynwa320 » Thu Apr 20, 2017 3:44 pm

Left out something, I would be pro se.. No attorney, Done it that way the last 10 motions over last 5 year. But I appreciate the inputs, keep them coming.
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Re: $3000

Unread postby Trevor » Thu Apr 20, 2017 7:02 pm

Or you can just not pay, and if she comes after you for it at some point, you have your documentation that all the kids live with you. And can meet a potential purge if you simply save the money.

ETA: sprit's point is a good one. By planting that flag, even if you don't follow up (you're not going to get a court hearing in time) it raises the stakes if she decides to come after you later.
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Re: $3000

Unread postby spritom » Thu Apr 20, 2017 7:21 pm

Last child
Last payments
Pro Se
Yeah, paying an attorney, I wouldn't
...but pro se? Yeah, I would.

Many states place a marker at the time that you file, so if you file now, then the decision is from the time of filing. So don't file later.
Whatever level of wackadoodle your Ex is, then expect a +1 from her.

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Re: $3000

Unread postby flynwa320 » Sat Apr 22, 2017 9:38 am

spritom wrote:Last child
Last payments
Pro Se
Yeah, paying an attorney, I wouldn't
...but pro se? Yeah, I would.

Many states place a marker at the time that you file, so if you file now, then the decision is from the time of filing. So don't file later.
Whatever level of wackadoodle your Ex is, then expect a +1 from her.

*dreams about getting to those last 3 months*


My state does this, nothing is retroactive, so you have to file and timeline starts then.
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