STBX conveniently "lost" her job...what now?

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Re: STBX conveniently "lost" her job...what now?

Unread postby Tom Kirkpatrick » Wed Apr 19, 2017 12:33 pm

truemort wrote:Why would she want to get me off the deed if she doesnt have to?
Whether you realize it or not, your name on that deed is a bona-fide bargaining chip. Trouble is, you've got a propensity for minimizing what precious few bargaining chips you actually have. Have you taken a thorough inventory of your bargaining chips??

In this game, whether it's little or whether it's much, you've gotta use what you've got. At the race track, "You run what you brung." For the rest of us, "You play the hand you've been dealt."

Bottom line: Sooner or later, whether it's now, or whether it's 20 years hence, she's gonna want your name off that deed. And whether you realize it or not, you're gonna want your name off that deed too - prior to divorce being finalized is much preferred.

In case no one's told you, your name on that deed has significant potential for financial entanglement and/or liability. The trick however, is getting your name off that deed and getting something of significance in return all at the same time.

truemort wrote:.....I have been locked into a pendente lite order that forces me to cover 95% of all expenses.....
And what are you getting in return??

Stated differently, in addition to her low wage status, is she getting all the tax benefits for 2016??.....Dependent deductions??.....Head of Household??.....Interest deduction on HER mortgage??.....etc??

If she's relying on this, what are you relying on??
truemort wrote:I have been relying on hard evidence.....
Hard evidence?? Who told you this??

Q: Why is it incumbent upon you to hold yourself to such a high standard??.....when preponderance is all that's necessary??

truemort wrote:It seemed as if I "had to" move out due to the constant abuse/DV.
$64 Q: Were you forced to move out by court order??

Tom
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Re: STBX conveniently "lost" her job...what now?

Unread postby Cropduster » Sat Apr 22, 2017 11:13 pm

OP....You need to consult with another atty as Tom has suggested.. I'm in Jersey and although my divorce was 12 years ago, the conditions were similar regarding finances, support and custody..However I didn't leave the house even after two false DV claims that were litigated.

I had one of the best family atty's in Jersey..Feel free to PM me if you're interested in contact info
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Re: STBX conveniently "lost" her job...what now?

Unread postby Cropduster » Sat Apr 22, 2017 11:25 pm

Sorry if I'm asking a question that's already been addressed..But how much of an income offset exists?
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Re: STBX conveniently "lost" her job...what now?

Unread postby truemort » Tue Apr 25, 2017 9:19 am

Cropduster wrote:Sorry if I'm asking a question that's already been addressed..But how much of an income offset exists?


I earn typically between 135 and 150k per year as a 1099 employee software developer paid to my LLC business name.

She would typically earn anywhere between 55 to 65k as a W2 employee until she left her job in 2014.

In 2015, she re-entered the workforce as a 1099 software developer just like me and had a contract at 40/hr or 80k per year...

this is the job she recently quit or was terminated from in March 2017.

She is arguing that her income potential is 20k (because she only made ~20k in 2016, yet had ability to earn 80k..)

She is also claiming that i "run a successful software company that requires valuation"...but meanwhile the LLC is simply a passthrough for our 1099 incomes because we were 1099 employees/consultants.
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Re: STBX conveniently "lost" her job...what now?

Unread postby truemort » Tue Apr 25, 2017 9:25 am

$64 Q: Were you forced to move out by court order??

Tom


Yes. I stayed put the duration through it all (the DV, etc). Until at my motion hearing, where i requested a proper parenting schedule she asked for exclusive use of the home and it was granted and I was granted the 2-2-3 50/% custody i was gunning for.
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