JimRockford wrote:From my understanding, while there is a law in California regarding a former spouse co-habitating, it only has to do with a rebuttal presumption that the new mate is contributing and causing a reduction in expenses. Being the cunning attorney that my ex is, she has apparently found a way to co-habitate and be free of this presumption forever.
Basically, she has now taken up with a full-time amateur tri-athlete. The guy has no money, no job, and basically just trains all day and competes in amateur triathlons that don't pay any prizes. When I was a kid, I think the term for this was Gigolo. I guess I could get bent out of shape knowing that in addition to her, I am supporting him too, but at the end of the day it makes no difference to me financially. I do continue to be amazed at the depths she continues to sink.
I had to deal with this-- and after taking the advice of many here that my ex could bounce/move at a moments notice I waited until she and her BF had enough intertwined assets it would be nearly impossible to get out things to be able to refute my co-habitation claim in court. Took 3 years, 5 years early of the agreed 8 years of SS in my MSA.
So they need to be more than roommates, have a romantic relationship, that you can prove. I had 3 items (1) Facebook page showing her and BF in a relationship (18 months post MSA)- copied with dates time, etc. (2) my Ex's cell phone caller ID resolved to her BF's name, and then the kicker-- (3) EX got a new truck (it was recently repo'd -- her and BF are no more) which our S said mom's BF bought for her. -- a little bit of investigation work discovered they bought the truck together (both on the title)... Enough for me to get SS terminated. Perm. non-modifiable terminated 18 months ago. Feels GREAT!