Private School Tution paid by her parents

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Private School Tution paid by her parents

Unread postby o20o20o » Tue Feb 07, 2017 2:31 pm

So my 2 kids are in private school, ostensibly for another 8 or so years. My wife and I have never spent a dime of marital money on tuition because it is fully paid for by my in-laws plus roughly 10% comes from my wife's trust fund (pre-marital asset).

Obviously we could agree out of court to keep this arrangement the same, but in the event we do go in front of a judge, will this even matter, or will the judge make me pay a significant portion of tuition?

I know my wife highly values keeping our kids in the school, as do I, but financially it would be untenable for me to pay a material amount of tuition in addition to CS and maintenance.

I can produce documentation (emails, etc) showing the in-laws pay almost everything and always have.
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Re: Private School Tution paid by her parents

Unread postby afc » Tue Feb 07, 2017 2:34 pm

In laws aint party to your divorce. They can't be ordered to pay any expense your kids incur.
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Re: Private School Tution paid by her parents

Unread postby massdad1234 » Tue Feb 07, 2017 3:28 pm

Then put you pay $0 for private school expenses. If her parents have no problems paying for everything, then she has nothing to worry about. Put she is 100% responsible and maintain status quo.
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Re: Private School Tution paid by her parents

Unread postby Havalu7 » Tue Feb 07, 2017 3:32 pm

Lucky kids!
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Re: Private School Tution paid by her parents

Unread postby lionel2013 » Tue Feb 07, 2017 3:43 pm

I doubt you will be made to pay. A status-quo has been in place for years now, and with your finances blown up by the divorce you should be able to show the court you couldn't possibly pay.

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Re: Private School Tution paid by her parents

Unread postby o20o20o » Tue Feb 07, 2017 4:06 pm

Thanks for the insight fellas. It looks like I should consider it a negotiating point. I'd give a little to get a lot here.

I could start at status quo.. 0 dollars from me.. but if it comes down to it, maybe I could offer to cover the 10% that my wife usually pays out of her trust if her parents pick up the rest of the tab.
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Re: Private School Tution paid by her parents

Unread postby afc » Tue Feb 07, 2017 4:09 pm

I'd stay and stick at 0. Public school unless you are in some key areas of Illinois won't hurt the kids in the slightest.
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Re: Private School Tution paid by her parents

Unread postby o20o20o » Tue Feb 07, 2017 4:16 pm

afc wrote:I'd stay and stick at 0. Public school unless you are in some key areas of Illinois won't hurt the kids in the slightest.


Neighborhood school is crap unfortunately. City dwellers.
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Re: Private School Tution paid by her parents

Unread postby afc » Tue Feb 07, 2017 4:40 pm

Well you cant make your soon to be ex inlaws continue a gift. So it will really boil down to which one of you wants the kids to go to private school more. It's going to be a stare down
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Re: Private School Tution paid by her parents

Unread postby Tom Kirkpatrick » Tue Feb 07, 2017 6:45 pm

o20o20o wrote:.....financially it would be untenable for me to pay a material amount of tuition in addition to CS and maintenance.
Actually Bro, blood can be drawn from a turnip. It's called "child support deviation." And if NJ asks for it, she'll likely get it. That's my 2¢.

In-laws paying tuition is, in effect, a gift to the marriage. It is not incumbent upon in-laws to continue this arrangement post divorce.

The judge won't care who pays. What he will care about is maintaining status quo. It's all about best interest of the children. Speaking frankly, that's what you're really up against.

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