Indiana44 wrote:I'm just afraid for some reason I won't get 50/50.
Unless you take off the gloves and pin her to the mat, you'll never get 50/50.
In this game you hafta be willing to step out of your comfort zone. You hafta be willing to push the envelope. And you hafta become even more willing to take risks. Because he who risks little gets little.
Indiana44 wrote:Stbx will freak when she finds out I'm fighting her.....
She can freak out 'til hell freezes. This is her weakness. And it's incumbent upon you to capitalize on that weakness and use it to your advantage. You've got nothing to lose.
Disconnect your buttons, Bro. She's not your wife any more.
Indiana44 wrote:.....Indiana says they'll do 50/50 if the parties can agree.
That's why you hold her feet to the fire and get her to settle out of court.
BTW - The rules are there are no rules. This is where surprises come into play. Surprises are what knock the other side off balance. Surprises are what level the playing field.
FYI - The vast majority of cases are settled at the 11th hour on the courthouse steps. That's what you've gotta prepare for.
Indiana44 wrote:.....but if she finds out she's not getting the house she might fight me.
Let her fight.
Never lose sight of the fact that the marital residence is your soft underbelly. He who gets the house also gets the kids.
Remember, you get exactly one chance to get this right. There are no do-overs. Whether they realize it or not, your kids are counting on you.
Everyone is entitled to my opinion. - Maxine™