Divorced Dad of two young men, 18 and soon to be 21. Dec 2016 will be four years divorced in CT. I will try to keep it short.
My decree states:
The parties agree to share equally, the expenses for post-secondary education for the minor children, which expenses include, but shall not be limited to, car insurance, computer, cell phone, health insurance when a college plan is inadequate, education -related travel, food, clothing and expenses when home for college breaks.
Neither child speaks to me and I have in writing that they want absolutely nothing to do with me ever.
They both attend 55K/year schools which I was never included on any conversations. I was just told where they were looking. Fortunately they have scholarships so the balance is not as much. I was told I would be paying what I am paying and never asked. One of the children has not even taken out a loan and is demanding i pay his rent for off campus housing.
I would have no problem helping out. I pay for the car insurance, cell bill , health insurance , food when they are home, HOWEVER, I don't feel they are entitled to any of it due to their incredibly harsh words and attitude. Zero respect.
I plan to file a motion for modification due to repudiation but not sure if that is even a thing in CT? And if not that, then I would like more clarification on the expenses as they are very vague in the above decree. IMO.
I have told them no I am no longer paying for anything and I am now being threatened being brought to court for contempt. I know the child can no enforce the order but the ex is screaming and plans to do so.
Thoughts? Am I being a jerk for wanting to get out of this? I have spoken to close family and friends and they can't believe I have to pay out all this money they way they speak to me.
P.S. I only make about 50K/year
Thanks for listening.