Cuzz in my state we had to go thru mediation before we went to trial, then we went into depositions, and further interagotorys, then trial.
It just depends on the state.
We initially did a parenting mediation, when my ex was threatening to move out, I can thank my lucky starts that my attorney got on top of that real quick, it was temp at the time, but it was made permanent in the end.
We tryed to mediate assets alone for a few monthes, then we tryed mediating with lawyers and a mediator twice, some thing it wasnt successful cause we didnt reach an agreement, but I kept up notes on the key things my ex wanted and focused on how to make that happen with the least damage.
You really shouldnt sell anything til you reach an agreement, if you have things to sell get some rel values of what you can expect for them, you need to inventory everything you own, and get real values, on furniture and odds and ends, my attorney said look on craigs list to get values, most of the time it was pennys on the dollar.
Dont emotionally attach yourself to anything you own, anything can be replaced, its just things.
Im in a 50/50 state and it took me a while to realize that I was gonna be basically half the man financially after the divorce that I was before, Im glad ours took a while, cause I was like you at first, I just wanted it over, and I didnt file by the way, so my attorney said just take your time, she said in my case time was my friend, and in the end i have to admit on a lot of levels it was.