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Re: Working on settlement, but cannot file yet

Unread postby Lion1234 » Fri Jan 19, 2018 6:20 pm

Yep. I even hinted at it to her.
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Re: Working on settlement, but cannot file yet

Unread postby Havalu7 » Sat Jan 20, 2018 12:00 am

Why?
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Re: Working on settlement, but cannot file yet

Unread postby Lion1234 » Sat Jan 20, 2018 11:22 am

No particular reason.
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Re: Working on settlement, but cannot file yet

Unread postby Havalu7 » Sat Jan 20, 2018 12:29 pm

First if all good job on moving back in; sandwich approach warning.

Dude you have been here long enough to know that strategy is not just making random moves and verbal hints without well thinking them through; perhaps even running them by the group here.

And yes you did wave the white flag in the school battle. You have fine schools in your area and you movd there to home school? No I get it she this she that, she this she that, she. ..

But you are still in the right place and yes you still have that digital audio recorder (DAR) keeping your new found huevos warm in your pocket.

Read up on radio silence bra.
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Re: Working on settlement, but cannot file yet

Unread postby Lion1234 » Sat Jan 20, 2018 1:08 pm

Wait, what home schooling are you talking about? They go to public schools in this town.

We don't talk now that i am back. This was back when I first told her about having to wait for 1 year.
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Re: Working on settlement, but cannot file yet

Unread postby Tom Kirkpatrick » Sat Jan 20, 2018 1:46 pm

Lion1234 wrote:She works for cash. Maybe 2K/month
Doing what??
Her working under the table is a perk of marriage. Now that marriage is ending, that perk must also end.

Here's the deal: She needs to become gainfully employed and fully self-supporting: W-2 employment; 40 hrs/wk. And under no uncertain terms, you need to tell her exactly that. If she blatantly refuses, then you'll know what her true intentions are.
You need to force her to tip her hand, not the other way around.

Lion1234 wrote:I even hinted at it to her.
You've gotta quit tipping your hand, Bro

Lion1234 wrote:......I first told her about having to wait for 1 year.
You mustn't give her legal advice either. It's akin to tipping your hand.

Lion1234 wrote:She has her own credit cards......
Who pays her credit cards??

Lion1234 wrote:I am willing to pay her to stay there in return for no alimony. She offered as much. Sort of.
This will change once she lawyers up; GUARANTEED.
Before all is said and done, she's gonna have it both ways; house and alimony.

Meanwhile, she's calling the shots. More correctly, she's working her game plan.
She knows you better than anyone. She's feeding you what you want to hear. It's called "lip service."

Ditch the house, Bro. Level the playing field.

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Re: Working on settlement, but cannot file yet

Unread postby Havalu7 » Sat Jan 20, 2018 2:18 pm

Sorry OP confused hou with another guy.

Keep taking the next right steps brother.

Like me admitting my mistakes. :oops:
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Re: Working on settlement, but cannot file yet

Unread postby Lion1234 » Sat Jan 20, 2018 2:29 pm

Tom Kirkpatrick wrote:
Lion1234 wrote:She works for cash. Maybe 2K/month
Doing what??
Tom

She manages real estate projects. I can no more stop it than I can stop her from using her credit card. She only uses it for food, gas, household expenses, etc. I already told her I will pay the bills once i see the statement.

She is looking for work, I know that. As do I.

When she told me she was going to file this Feb, I told her she had to wait until Sep. That was all, no legal advice.

House has to be completed first, then we will both decide. She cannot sell it without me, same goes for me. But she also cannot pay for it without me. Alimony or not.

She is feeding me nothing, trust me. She's way too far out of her depth on all this. Not that she is not a quick study.

My priority at the moment is to get her to unblock the account she managed to have blocked. We will run out of cash in a week.
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Re: Working on settlement, but cannot file yet

Unread postby Tom Kirkpatrick » Sat Jan 20, 2018 8:13 pm

Within the next few weeks, do this: Go to your local courthouse and see family court judges in action. To get a really good grasp of how they do business, it would behoove you to visit the courthouse more than once.

While you're there, you should be watching attorneys as well. The day will come when you're gonna need one.

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Re: Working on settlement, but cannot file yet

Unread postby dadforever » Sun Jan 21, 2018 5:31 am

Thing is, if she won't negotiate with you regarding using her credit cards, she is probably not going to negotiate with you when the time comes to file. I know that's not a perfect logical conclusion, but right now it's the only information that you have to go on.

I'm kind of with Tom on this one (as usual).

Dump the house and move to another State. You can sell it before it's finished but it might cost you. The alternative is that if you get croaked in the divorce (likely), it will cost you a lot more- plus you will be a part time Dad.

If you insist on ignoring the advice given, try to get your wife to sign an agreement now regarding 50/50 custody plus no alimony in exchange for the house. It won't be binding but it will be telling. IF SHE WONT DO THIS, YOU ALREADY HAVE YOUR ANSWER AND CONTINUING ON YOUR PRESENT PATH WOULD BE STUPID.
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