Parenting olan

Parental Alienation, Malicious Mother Syndrome, dealing with the ex, and various other non-legal concerns throughout the process.

Parenting olan

Unread postby Dad2015 » Thu Jan 11, 2018 8:30 pm

what kind of parenting plan have you guys gotten for kids around 3?

MY ex thinks she's being fair giving me 20% and I'm only asking for 30% for now.

I didn't know I was his dad until July. I have not met him yet as she won't let me until after court.
(I am an excellent dad to my other son so have experience)

What have you guys experienced?
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Re: Parenting olan

Unread postby massdad1234 » Thu Jan 11, 2018 8:35 pm

nothing less than 50%. Its ok to build a step up plan, but do not agree to anything less than 50/50 split. If she won't give it to you, you will have to take it to the mats, period.
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Re: Parenting olan

Unread postby Dad2015 » Thu Jan 11, 2018 8:39 pm

we live an hour away so I can't bring him to school every day so I don't think I can do 50/50.

Any advice on that?

Can the step up plan be automatic? Like this month it's this time with this child support, 6 months later it's this time and child support, and so on???
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Re: Parenting olan

Unread postby massdad1234 » Thu Jan 11, 2018 8:57 pm

a parenting plan is anything you and the mother agree upon. It only goes to a judge for review to make sure its legit. Once the judge signs off, it becomes the lay of the land.

You should have thought about that before you started inserting your penis into vaginas.
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Re: Parenting olan

Unread postby Trevor » Thu Jan 11, 2018 9:02 pm

There will be CS at one rate until the child is emancipated, regardless of your parenting time. The two are not connected, except in states where the CS is mitigated when the NCP gets more than (say) 40% of the overnights or more.

You should research seriously the potential of moving closer to the child, if you're serious about being an integral part of the child's life. Your reasons not to do so will be challenged here, so think hard about your response.

How was paternity established, specifically?
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Re: Parenting olan

Unread postby Dad2015 » Thu Jan 11, 2018 9:14 pm

I bought a house to be near my first son. Didn't know about the 2nd so he wasn't factored in. Can't sell my house now and move away from first son.

We did paternity test and submitted to court so paternity was established.
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Re: Parenting olan

Unread postby Trevor » Thu Jan 11, 2018 9:19 pm

Come on, man.

Why would finding a place midway be impossible? Thirty minutes each way would be cake for strong engagement in both of their lives. These are your kids.

I'm not saying immediately. But it will factor into your ability (per the court) to have 50/50 parenting time.
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Re: Parenting olan

Unread postby Tom Kirkpatrick » Thu Jan 11, 2018 11:27 pm

Dad2015 wrote:MY ex thinks she's being fair giving me 20% and I'm only asking for 30% for now.
That 20% vs 30% parenting plan is BS. Shame on you both. Florida is a 50/50 state. You mustn't allow her to dictate terms.

Dad2015 wrote:We live an hour away so I can't bring him to school every day so I don't think I can do 50/50.
Stop complaining and make it happen. Your child is counting on you. You will not get a second chance.

Dad2015 wrote:I have not met him yet as she won't let me until after court.
That's BS too. You're letting her dictate terms. What you need is a Temporary Order. Where's your attorney on this??

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Re: Parenting olan

Unread postby afc » Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:27 am

OP, maybe you've mentioned this before but have you met thge kid or spent any time with him yet?
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Re: Parenting olan

Unread postby Chaos » Fri Jan 12, 2018 1:06 am

She's refusing access until after court.

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