She then claimed I did drugs,
lovingfatherof2 wrote:It's all about the money for her. I got me an ex like that too.
I don't remember but is your 50/50 parenting time court ordered or is it just what you have been doing?
a dad wrote:Is this "$1000 fee" for private mediation or for your attorney while using the courts mediation services?
whatever_works wrote:Court ordered mediation if free in my state. Depending on the state you may be able to get the mediation done at no cost to you.
spritom wrote:Sounds like a rough patch and sorry to hear you're going through it.
But she's got a few cracks going on...
CS calcs usually have a "calculation" based on some chart.
Many states have an online web site to help calculate it, but usually it can be calculated by hand if you need to.
Remember that CS "income" is not the same as IRS income, so it will be specifically how your state spells out the CS rules. And every little detail matters, so learn those details that favor you. An hour of reading might save you $300/month.
Many states also calculate in as part of CS any other CS obligations you have (like the $1100). In fact, however this one turns out, you can on your own, recalculate the $1100 thing to see if it needs to be altered too.
Just learn the CS rules, they're not real hard, just some odd details.
Custody & Parenting Time
Custody is decision-making for school, medical, and church (kinda church anyway)
Parenting Time is the schedule with each parent
Most states say they need a "significant change of circumstances" for the child before a change can be claimed. The NJ having sour grapes doesn't meet that.
So you can tirelessly pound the message that the child's circumstances are the same, child's well-being of being with both parents best serves the child...
Repeat, repeat, repeat.
You never talk about yourself to the court (or your Ex). They hate you anyway. You only talk about what's the awesomest thing for the child.
And part of that is the status quo you mentioned...so yeah, you're on the right track there. It's one of the important ingredients.She then claimed I did drugs,
Ah, one of those that will readily commit perjury.
Yup, ya gotta watch those criminals a little closely.
They get creative sometimes...claiming sexual allegations, that you have guns and are dangerous, claiming you came over to their house at night and threatened them (that last one is another thread on here...the dude was home sleeping all night and the Ex is claiming he was committing felonies).
Mediators have one job...try to cut a deal.
They may not care if it's a fair deal or if the Ex is lying.
So just remember you're the only one that has your back in there and just prepare and stay true and you'll be fine.
You got this.
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