Havalu7 wrote:OP if she does not agree are you willing (based on the importance of this event and as it sounds pretty cool for the kids), to offer her a little more time on top of the week of make up time?
Reason why I ask is if she does respond and is back "online" and responding, why not have a counter offer ready just in case?
Thanks, man, I do understand what you are saying. I would consider it under the circumstances, as you say; I really want our kids to spend this time with their family. But it would be a hard pill to swallow. I find mom's influence to be detrimental to our kids and I am in the process of trying to limit her opportunity to model adult behavior.
In regards to make up time, I wrote to her: "Perhaps a week they would be with you Mon thru Wed in addition to the other regular days they would be with you? I will gladly discuss and am open to your suggestions." I will keep the "extra time" card in my back pocket, but will wait to play it as I suspect she has no intentions of working with me no matter what I propose. She is about controlling me and controlling the kids, and I have a feeling she would do whatever necessary to prevent me from taking them on this trip.
(Side story of her controlling behavior: S11 walks home from lacrosse practice last night and doesn't have his gear with him. He left it at the school because mom told him he couldn't bring it to my house and that he should leave it in the gym so she can pick it up; she bought it, so it's not his, it's hers. Guess who's lacrosse stuff went missing after mom went to pick it up an hour after practice? The woman is the epitome of cutting off your nose to spite your face.)
I need to search for R3 again. I've seen it referenced here on the forum before, but I don't recall what it's for.
*Edited to add: R3= Registered Letter, Return Reciept Requested. Got it.