demanding make up time

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demanding make up time

Unread postby quantum » Tue Apr 18, 2017 1:16 pm

Ex wants to go out of state and asked me if I could take of child when she is gone.

I agreed to it and then she says she will let me know when she would like to extra days as make up! WTH!

Two months ago, I asked her to take care of child when I was sick and couldn't care for D. I didn't ask for any makeup time afterall she was doing a favor.

This kind additional time have a way of evening out. She got 2 extra days when I was sick and I am now getting those two days back since she wants my help. With that in backdrop how would you respond to such demands?

I am in no mood to give any make up time with all the filings going on. Also do not want to enter into an email exchange contest at the same time
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Re: demanding make up time

Unread postby afc » Tue Apr 18, 2017 1:22 pm

"Two months ago, I asked her to take care of child when I was sick and couldn't care for D. I didn't ask for any makeup time afterall she was doing a favor."

Well now you know what to ask for next time.
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Re: demanding make up time

Unread postby quantum » Tue Apr 18, 2017 1:26 pm

I will have to remind her then that she has got her additional time already?
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Re: demanding make up time

Unread postby Fatheroffour » Tue Apr 18, 2017 1:28 pm

Why not tell her you have other plans and that you can't do her this favor?
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Re: demanding make up time

Unread postby afc » Tue Apr 18, 2017 1:32 pm

No.

Next time you are sick, you watch the kid anyway or you ask her to take your time and ask for make up time.

You started under the assumption of one set of rules. When it was her turn, she decides those are not the rules she wants. So go and play by hers.
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Re: demanding make up time

Unread postby quantum » Tue Apr 18, 2017 1:34 pm

I could but she hasn't mentioned any specific dates yet. She just says she will let me know what those days are.
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Re: demanding make up time

Unread postby quantum » Tue Apr 18, 2017 1:42 pm

There was no way I could have watched. I was sufferring vertigo with vomitting due to some sorta bug. I was adviced to just rest for a week and not move my head. It was horrible times

It was best for the kid to be with mom in that condition and when I asked her to take care of kid as a favor I thought I shouldn't be demanding
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Re: demanding make up time

Unread postby afc » Tue Apr 18, 2017 1:43 pm

Well, do you have a ROFR? If not then mom can get her mom or someone else to watch.

You guys are uneven if you dont have a ROFR if she has people ready and able to watch the kid besides you.
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Re: demanding make up time

Unread postby quantum » Tue Apr 18, 2017 2:07 pm

We do have rofr. Her parents are not near by so that's not a possibility. Might be that her new husband is also traveling with her which is why she wants me to take care which I have no problems with
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Re: demanding make up time

Unread postby Trevor » Tue Apr 18, 2017 5:32 pm

Do you feel compelled to respond? If so, why?
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