Split custody - ex gets way more time as stay at home mom

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Split custody - ex gets way more time as stay at home mom

Unread postby stixin05 » Sun Apr 16, 2017 10:09 am

My ex and I have split custody over our 4 yo girl. She was working for a few months following the divorce so our daughter was in day care. She got remarried in December and now stays at home everyday with the kid. We still do 2/2/3 but I only get her during the evening on those 2 week days. It seems unfair that she has her so much more overall just because she gets to stay home. How should this work? Should I be getting her every weekend or more nights or does she just get a huge advantage by being able to stay home?
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Re: Split custody - ex gets way more time as stay at home mo

Unread postby Fatheroffour » Sun Apr 16, 2017 10:13 am

The ability to stay at home is a huge advantage.
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Re: Split custody - ex gets way more time as stay at home mo

Unread postby Chaos » Sun Apr 16, 2017 10:33 am

Holy entitlement Batman.

It's not her job to make your life seem fair.
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Re: Split custody - ex gets way more time as stay at home mo

Unread postby astrolink » Sun Apr 16, 2017 11:12 am

If you want the same, you will either have to marry into money so you can quit working, simply quit working and go live with your parents or win a big lottery ticket.

How else do you want folks to respond?
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Re: Split custody - ex gets way more time as stay at home mo

Unread postby Fatheroffour » Sun Apr 16, 2017 11:15 am

A healthier perspective would be to consider how fortunate your daughter is that she can be cared for by a parent rather than having the divided attention of a paid caregiver.
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Re: Split custody - ex gets way more time as stay at home mo

Unread postby Trevor » Sun Apr 16, 2017 11:57 am

Minimum-wage caregiver, in cases of typical (non-heath-related care needs) American children.
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Re: Split custody - ex gets way more time as stay at home mo

Unread postby jetz » Thu Apr 20, 2017 6:20 pm

This is why people call the legal system sexist.

I've had little issue with any of the system as a pilot who has dedicated to the highly unwanted Friday to Monday schedule (at work). Mom works Monday to Friday and for years has let the status quo settle in. I get my 50 shared time and enjoy more actually time with kiddo. Plus I don't wait in line anywhere.
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Re: Split custody - ex gets way more time as stay at home mo

Unread postby spritom » Thu Apr 20, 2017 6:49 pm

I had to read it twice...but if I'm reading it correctly
So if there's a split of the time 50/50 or 60/40 or whatever the percentage is.
Your share of the pie hasn't had any change. So you're not out any more time than before.

Your Ex won a lottery there to where she can add some efficiency to her own slice of the pie, but that's no concern of yours and that whole topic can go on your list of things not to give a crap about.

You've still got your same share, work towards your own better life just like before.
Work. Live. Love. It'll still be every bit as awesome (and in some ways, more so).

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