Speech therapist scheduled for the 17th. Mother is not willing to discuss how he will get there or how I could take him. The appointment was rushed at around 40 days waiting... average wait is 50 business days. Judge told me I was supposed to take him.
I don't tell people but I was diagnosed with Aspergers at a young age (childers hospital) but have struggled with deciding if that was just part of the fad era and covering for issues my parents divorce subjected me to. Mother is currently severely anxious depressive (self diagnosis on FB). He absorbs information like a sponge right now so I'm hesitant to believe it is rooted in learning disabilities. I have kept it in mind though, and your falling on that possibility from just snippets is a healthy reminder.
I am glad you're not taking that possibility out of consideration, unlike many other parents.
On this issue the "label" doesn't really matter, it's understanding precisely what his special needs are, and taking the appropriate corrective measures. But I stress that you need to take him for a comprehensive evaluation
to a child psychiatrist, or to a child developmental specialist, or both. They will have your son go through a battery of tests to precisely determine in what respect he is falling behind, and recommend corrective actions/therapies. I know you've already identified speech delay, but that may not be the only aspect that needs addressed - and you won't know that until you have him properly diagnosed (because other deficiencies become apparent only later unless specifically probed now). And yes, the sooner you do this the better, it is ideal to get this going at as early of an age as possible.
And in case you're wondering, on all of the above I speak from personal experience with my own son.
PS: <<Mother is not willing to discuss how he will get there or how I could take him
.>> I hear you, but your frustration will get you nowhere good. You need to accept that as a reality, ignore it, and do what you have to do for your son without expecting anything from her because clearly you're not going to get anything from her. So far all you're doing is getting worked up because of her with no obvious benefit to you. To share something else from my own experience: my X has been refusing to meet a requirement [very easy one] spelled out in our MSA. 3-4 years ago I would have bombarded her with e-mails and my blood pressure would have gone up 20 mm at a minimum. Nowadays, after making three written requests, I stopped asking her for anything and just filed a motion to compel. I don't bother asking her for it anymore because I know I'm not going to get it unless the court orders her to produce it.
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