lionel2013 wrote:I am proactively seeking her input. She simply does not respond to the topic.
At the risk of sounding like a broken record, I'll say it again: keep asking her questions as issues arise, and if you don't get an answer take action on your own. Simple as that.
But from the rest of your reply I get the sense there is more than that that is frustrating you. It's not just that she refuses to help you make decisions, she also does not actually help you in doing all these things for your kid (e.g., vaccinations, enrollment etc.). That is a totally different thing.
So now my question is: who has residential custody, or do you have 50/50?
If I don't do it, it doesn't get done. If I go to do it, she objects.
I am using all my time taking him to doctors since he hasn't been seen since 2013, library because his language is at a 3 year old level, parks so he can see other kids his own age, cooking so he gets over food phobias. Then I run around on my time to get these piles of paperwork done. All I do is ask mother for her input as I update her. He was habitually puking phlegm up every morning because he had untreated allergies. His shots were months overdue. He didn't start potty training until he was 4 and a half when I complained (before I had half legal).
She is the primary physical custodian, and I'll say flat out she is neglectfully abusing him. Minimum. He has tons of unexplained bruises for a kid who is kept cooped up inside all day.