New here, but lurking for a while...
My ex and I have had an agreement for the last three years (building on past agreements) that states that neither of us will change the holiday schedule. My lawyer had this very specific language added in because my ex kept finding ways to take my holidays when the old agreement was vague. So the new agreement states that Easter is the father's on odd years, mother's even, with the caveat that the Spring Break schedule trumps the holiday. Spring break interfered last year and I had them. So, of course, she thinks she should have them this year. The obvious answer, which I responded with, is that we have to stick to the agreement, which we both signed. She responded that she will show up on Saturday night with the expectation that the kids will come with her. Daughter (13) texted: "did you have us last year? Yes. It's simple. Please don't argue. It makes my life a living hell."
So, awesome. Manipulating a 13-year-old is not super hard for those willing to do it. I'm not. So I get to be the bad guy for following the argreement? This is a pattern, by the way. And my relationship with D13 is usually pretty good until her mother pulls this sort of thing. Son, 15, stays out of all of it, scarred by these sorts of arguments.
Thoughts for responding to it all? I'm not going to let her take Easter. That would mean violating the agreement, for one. But what if she shows up at my house trying to bully the kids into leaving with her? I could call the cops and show them the agreement, I guess. It all seems like a recipe to ruin the holiday, which maybe she's done already.