Best 50/50 sharing for young kids

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Best 50/50 sharing for young kids

Unread postby dofb » Fri Apr 07, 2017 8:35 pm

As part of our negotiations, we had agreed to 2/2/3 with STBX. Now she wants to change to 2/2/5/5. Any thoughts on the pros and cons? Kids are 8, 6, 3, 1. Her reasoning, it's more "convenient." WTH.
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Re: Best 50/50 sharing for young kids

Unread postby BartSimpson » Fri Apr 07, 2017 8:46 pm

It's good. Which days of the week are yours? Hopefully Wednesday and Thursday?
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Re: Best 50/50 sharing for young kids

Unread postby spritom » Fri Apr 07, 2017 8:47 pm

Many (many) dads have done the 5-2-2-5 thing, and have turned out to like it.
Though common for tweens/teens to favor more of a straight up 7-7 thing.

Many cases have also gone with the:
1-day apart from either parent for each year old the child is.
Using that formula, even loosely, might mean switching the youngin's every 2-4 days-ish or something. Yes, it's more work for the parents too...but don't ever say out loud to Ex/other-attorney/judge/etc. that something is ever tough for you. It lights a fire under them.

Anyway, I digress...

Here's some "sample" parenting plans that the State of Arizona published (had commissioned by some social-worker-people). But to my knowledge, the document isn't considered proof in court or anything. But to me it has some really good options to help educate a dad on the possibilities.

http://www.azcourts.gov/portals/31/pare ... elines.pdf
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Re: Best 50/50 sharing for young kids

Unread postby dofb » Sat Apr 08, 2017 7:36 am

She said it would be more work to switch more frequently. I know she's trying to get them out so she can screw around and party.
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Re: Best 50/50 sharing for young kids

Unread postby BartSimpson » Sat Apr 08, 2017 8:36 am

Wednesday and Thursday?
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Re: Best 50/50 sharing for young kids

Unread postby ohsnap » Wed Apr 12, 2017 9:33 pm

BartSimpson wrote:Wednesday and Thursday?


Following. What is the significance of having Wednesday/Thursday in this scenerio?
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Re: Best 50/50 sharing for young kids

Unread postby BartSimpson » Wed Apr 12, 2017 9:38 pm

Monday's involve a lot of school holidays, when the children are of age.

Also, Mondays can frequently be "Teacher Workdays" or whatever they call those now-a-days.

So avoiding Monday (and therein Tuesday) you generally get more time because of your share of holidays.
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Re: Best 50/50 sharing for young kids

Unread postby a dad » Wed Apr 12, 2017 10:05 pm

Yep, but if you do end up with Mondays and Tuesdays, those Monday teacher in-service/training days, which are not addressed in most parenting plans, allow for more non-school days with the kids.

There are pros and cons to all of these so be willing to switch if it means closing the deal.

With the 7/7, you can try switching the exchange day from Friday or Monday. With the 3/3/4/4, it's about weekend days. Etc.
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Re: Best 50/50 sharing for young kids

Unread postby MegaDad » Thu Apr 13, 2017 11:29 am

My Ex and I do the 7/7 with our boys, 5 and 3. I know its unconventional due to the boys' ages but it works for them. We've done Sunday lunchtime exchanges as well as Mondays where one parent drops the kids off at school and daycare and the other picks them up.

Just one option among many.
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Re: Best 50/50 sharing for young kids

Unread postby vlsora » Thu Apr 13, 2017 6:00 pm

I have a D3, and we alternate 4 days with each parent. Since there are 7 days in the week, it offsets so the 4 days always start on different days. I actually like it, the main con is it is confusing and it makes hard to schedule stuff.
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