Trevor wrote:You need always to be working on your kids' critical thinking skills. Are you challenging their assumptions and questions? Do you help them with their homework? How do you handle a disrespectful comment? By the way you should lose that idiot who cannot understand your admonishments not to engage in gossip. And you need to work on your own impulsive behavior. Emotional intelligence work is needed here.
Yes, you're correct and I need to continue to work on my impulsive behavior.
I try to help with homework but they're a little old and don't want my help normally. Sometimes I do.
I correct any disrespectful behavior by telling them do not talk to me in that tone or watch what you say, be respectful. Basically that. Normally I get the stop talking dad, I'm not in the mood routine. Which they are flat out moody at times.
Once in a long while I'll just ignore certain statements they make that are false coming from their mom. Basically from my fatigue of the topic since ive addressed it before. I think that was wrong and I need to nip it Tactfully in the butt. Latest was telling a daughter she had a witness to something I said which Nj falsely spun around to fit her narrative and now the daughter stares nj has 4 witnesses. I ignored that statement from the daughter.,it wasnt on topic, daughter was upset about something else slightly related. . The daughter said it out of the blue. I think she was looking for clarity maybe, I should have challenged them again to think about how would that even be possible.. It takes a novel to explain these twisted manipulations.