We had the conciliation hearing yesterday, and my ex did exactly what she told me she would and lied right to the conciliator telling stories of me being intoxicated in front of the children on many occasions and that I was drinking and using drugs all of the time with little or no clean time. She told them that I was doing OxyCoton, perkocets , xanex and cocaine, she mentioned several drugs and I don't do any of them. The only thing a do is smoke pot with her on a few occasions and she didn't even mention that drug. Either the conciliator thought that I was the one who wasn't being truthful or she doubted me enough to recommend Sole Physical custody to her and give me only EOW and < parenting time > on Tuesdays and Thursdays with stipulations that I need notes from my Dr's on a monthly basis stating my treatment and compliance to it, as well as opinion on weather or not I am capable of taking care of children safely. I have to submit to random Drug and Alcohol testing and get evaluated by someone.
It was one sided from the moment I walked in. My lawyer did little to challenge her and when I attempted to call her out on it and ask why she wasn't being truthful, I was silenced for talking out of turn. My ex and her lawyer tried to make me have zero sleepovers and supervised < parenting time > only. The conciliator told me that I was getting a break because she believed I was sincere when I talked about me child and recommended what she did.
Keep in mind, my ex knows with 100% certainty that I am neither a danger to their safety, or incapable of caring for them alone but she felt no remorse as she lied her way to effectively try to remove me from the picture.
I have read a lot posts on this forum and it blows my mind how common it is for woman to lie in court to try to remove a father from his children. They see no problem in separating children from their fathers out of revenge or anger? With little or no remorse. The effects on her own children don't outweigh the need to hurt and punish the men whom they no longer want in their lives. Not until it happened to me and I witnessed from personal experience and by coming to this forum could I imagine just how many woman are capable of this? This seems to be normal behavior and when a woman is honest and understanding that the fathers role matters that is the exception.c
I guess the temporary order is going to be what was recommended because we didn't agree and my attorney said I would know in a few days. She had succeeded so far and I don't know how long I am going to be subject to all these stipulations in order to build trust and a track record of sobriety that they are looking for when it looks like I am starting off with nothing and my current 9 months isn't going to be considered.
Can I offer to take a hair follicle test and make her take one also? The only thing that will show up is pot and that will show up in her hair too? Would something like this even help?