I listened to one of Dr. Childress videos. OMG...I can't believe it. I'm connecting the dots. My father told me about 8 years ago while I was still married that my ex-wife has Borderline Personality Disorder. How does he know? He works in the mental health field. Although he doesn't have PHD in Psychology, he as a PHD in Education and has a very successful private drug and alcohol treatment program. He sees all types of people.
This all falls into place because my ex-wife is holding my kids hostage and vilifying me to the kids.
It appears I have a lot of work to do in an attempt to understand Parental Alienation and how it all relates to my ex-wife's BPD. Locally, there is a support group that I am going to attend on April 4th.
It appears that the divorce created a grief response among all the family members. The borderline personality of my ex-wife, however, is pathologically unable to experience or process sadness and grief, and instead translates these emotions into anger, resentment and revenge towards me. She blames me for the public borderline injury of rejection and abandonment. Under the distorting influence of her personality, my child is led into a similarly distorted interpretation of the own grief and sadness, as a representing anger and resentment toward me rather than experiencing the authentic sadness at the loss, i.e., divorce.
I must learn to become an exceptionally good parent. I must find the support of a skilled and knowledgeable therapist, and the support of the Court. With this support, appropriate therapy will require that the child be protectively separated from my ex-wife and her parenting practices of a BPD during the active phase of my child's treatment and recovery in order to protect her from becoming a psychological battleground as a result of my ex-wife's parenting practices.