Aries13 wrote:.....my lawyer got the feeling that the judge felt that the circumstances in the case had not changed enough to change the current custody order. My lawyer suggest that she would try and get the judge changed. It personally felt like she was letting me know it didn't look good. Sound familiar to anyone?
Instead of giving you ground shaking coaching on building your case, your attorney kicked you in the balls when you least expected it - the weakness of your case.....and at the same time, she also created a weakness, namely, your fear of the judge. Frankly Bro, she should've warned you of this before taking your money.....and certainly that warning should've come before you filed.
Either she's lost interest in your case or your attorney's capitulated to the other side. What's troubling is that your attorney didn't coach you on the rigors of custody modification namely, de facto custody
by increments and how that strategy might work for you in your jurisdiction.
In other words, it's incumbent upon you to create a significant change in circumstances - and chances are, you'll hafta create it out of thin air. And as veterans here will attest, this takes time; like many months. And during those months, it's important that you don't tip your hand. Because right now, you just tipped your hand in the worst possible way. And in the greater scheme of things, that's a major mistake, something you can't recover from over the course of the foreseeable future.
Q: How long as it ben since you moved closer to your kids?? Has your parenting time increased since making that move??
Q: Other than modification of parenting plan, you should be asking for a number of other concessions. What are they??
Aries13 wrote: My lawyer also suggested and I agreed to, sending her lawyer a letter offering Wednesday night through Sunday night.
Your attorney has got you compromising all over the place. If what you want is 50/50, why would you settle for this?? Tell your attorney you want 7/7 plus other concessions like tax deductions, ROFR, and geographic restriction.
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