Q: How long has it been since you moved closer to your kids?? Has your parenting time increased since making that move??
I moved into my new place first week in NOV. Yes I have picked up a night during the week for dinner.
Supposed to have a night in the second week, but I have picked up a second job (sound familiar??? lol - I have always had multiple jobs and worked 10-14 hour days / have summers off though) and for that second week the kids have educational obligations on Mon. and Wed., and I work on Tuesdays and Fridays. SO the only day I have is Thursday of that week, and I ask her for that night for dinner, but she responded with "can't, we have a special dinner that night".
As a family we lived in my hometown (within 5 minutes of my fam) for 3ish years and then moved to within 5 min of her family for the last 3 years. Separation in April 2014, I moved back to my hometown (family support / financial) about hour and 15 away from kids and ex. Stayed there 2 years 7 months. Most of that time I was driving both ways of an 1hr15 min drive to see the kids. Took advantage of her needing date nights ( do you want the kids, I have a "work dinner") I took advantages of any nights she offered or I could get. This ended when she got remarried. Point to this second long paragraph is, even though I have only been within 10 minutes since Nov. I have done what it took to see them constantly and as much as possible no matter the distance. Took a leadership role in my son's boy scout troop for 3 months (3 nights a week, 1hr15 min drive each way for me at the time, to which he "missed" roughly 50% of the meetings and events once ex found out I had volunteered.
b]Q: Other than modification of parenting plan, you should be asking for a number of other concessions. What are they??[/b]
***Only Biological parents can corporal punish----- (Her new husband, popped my 6 G several times and "slapped my 9 B in the back of the head - out of anger) I have been working with others children for nearly 20 years and I can't grasp what is going through another grown man's mind ( has a 9 B of his own) to strike another man's child.
***Only Bio parents called Mom and Dad (if you read my full story you will see why)
***File one of the kids on taxes
(stayed on top of my oldest early about disrespect and what it meant to be respectful of others - Only ever administered the attention getter pop to the butt and I can't tell you the last time he needed an attention getter. Now the stern look works well, even though he slips up, he has an understanding of what it means to respect others (all people) Just wanted to add this to clarify.
*If anyone see's something in my story, ANYTHING, feel free to point it out! Would rather get my feelings hurt a bit but see a different perspective that is useful.
Perfect Example, Tom's response sucked but very much appreciated. Even though it made me see I have made mistakes that may ultimately cost me, it also let me see that I must use bits and pieces of everything I have been recording from the beginning.
What I feel is my best approach (in short - please dm for more detail) !. I'm a good father 2.My children's lives will be more complete with constant time with their father 3. There is physical stress being experienced by older child 4. Evidence of parent alienation. 5. Her new marriage 6. My relocation 7. And us in court. I know anyone that hangs around this forum long, feels passionately about their situations. I have evidence supporting all 6 points above (who knows how strong). I feel if my lawyer presents the evidence that I have, supporting above points, and I am able to get on the stand to tell my story, people will see I'm a father that will have a positive effect on the children.