Now then - Your ex was ordered to pay $180/mo in child support. But she hasn't paid anything in 30 mos. Let's see.......
$180 X 30 months = $5400
WOW!! That means she's $5400 in arrears.
Translation = She's got "dirty hands."
Clairification = Thou shalt not enter family court with "dirty hands."
It would be one thing if she attempted to pay "something." Courts take that into consideration. But in your case, she's made no attempt to pay anything. That's gonna hurt.
In states like Oregon, $5K is the magic number - felony failure to pay child support. There's all kinds of sanctions they can levy that include jail time, loss of driver's license, wage garnishment, etc, etc, etc. The list goes on. Basically, they can throw the book at you and hold your feet to the fire until the arrearage is caught up.
Translation = From now on, your ex must fight a war on two fronts.
You already have an upcoming court date. Furthermore, your ex's new residence can be classified as a "significant change in circumstance" that has occurred since the last order was written. IMHO, you've got everything in your favor to rewrite your temporary order the way you want. So - Sit down and write your wish list. Remember, temporary orders usually become final at trial. Now's your chance to make it good. Just make it sound "reasonable" and in your "child's best interest."
1) Let your ex do all the driving - pick up and drop off. Take advantage of this. This is one of those sanctions the court would love to levy against a non-compliant parent who's $5400 in arrears. Remember, it's not just the $50/wk in gas money. It's also about wear and tear on your car which translates into additional maintenance costs, accelerates depretiation and time of replacement. These are important factors (above and beyond the usual costs to raise a child) to consider when assigning child support.
2) Bed time on school nights. Will your child have been fed by the time he is dropped off?? For example, if bed time is 8:00, then drop off time should be no later than 6:00. If he must eat when he returns home, then drop off time should be no later than 5:00. Additionally, mid-week parenting time should be eliminated altogether during the school year.
I trust this has given you food for thought. As you compose your modification draft, you've gotta look into the future and include circumstances that may not exist today. Leave no stone unturned.
Remember, she's in arrears. You're the primary parent. She has no grounds to contest your modifications provided, of course, they are reasonable and in your child's best interest.
Everyone is entitled to my opinion. - Maxine™