Anything4Her wrote:goya2 wrote:If HE can't even write to ask for advice,
Lets be fair, goya, he DID show up. You may have missed it a few posts back.
I'm glad to see your gf cares enough to help and that she was wise enough to take our advice to get you on here without going off in a huff.
Details on your situation as Minuette requested would help greatly.
My bad, thought Vic was a different matter. Apologies.
Vic- nobody can make the decision for you, and none of us are in your shoes. All we can do is tell you from our experience what to expect and prep you for what you need to do.
I can tell you it will tax your relationship.
I can tell you that nobody in the system is your friend.
My axiom is: For Mom, they're looking for an reason (to give her custody). For Dad, they're looking for an excuse (to do what they have as a default setting, give children to mom).
In other words, you need to do everything right and she needs to do one thing right...and thats to get 50/50. It may not play out that way, but live like it will.