bf15 wrote:Would she be in contempt of the above statement in our custody order since she is refusing to tell me the dr, and appointment date/time?
File a motion to rule to show cause and let a judge decide. Being served with rule to show cause will get her heart racing because she will have to explain why she's not following what the court has ordered. If she has a good excuse the judge will dismiss it. If she's a nj/stbx that's violating the order the judge will help bring her in line.
Another way to get around this is to determine the doctor (if you can tell the future) and notify them in writing that you are to be separtely notified.
mentioned earlier in thread: Showing up for an appointment (with court order in hand) will get you a front row seat to get all the info you need and communicate to the medical professional that you are effectively the sole decision-makerIdeas for managing the boyfriend:
Boyfriend taking kid to physician. Hmmm. Nowhere is boyfriend listed as a guardian or decision-maker so my guess is that the court would look down on stbx for delegating any form of medical decision-making.
Let the boyfriend take your kid to the doctor, document it, and show the court that stbx is being irresponsible by letting a non-guardian make decisions for her and without informing you.
If you know when/where the appointment is then contact the physician's office and inform them shortly before the appointment that your kid is only to be examined and not to be treated because he/she is not accompanied by a legal guardian/parent.
Research criminal penalties for non-parent/non-guardian misrepresenting themselves for treatment of a minor.
My nj/stbx cost me around USD 8,000 per fornication session.
My nj/stbx had this in mind (and still does) for me: the manipulated man by Esther Vilar
"Husband pays" quote from my stbx