Treading Water wrote:Why wasn't this done when the temp CS order was made?
In my jurisdiction temporary < parenting time > and support hearings are done separately. The original path was to get an emergency hearing which can be done here when there's been zero overnight visits.
Support hearing froze nearly all assets and left me without counsel. Now that I'm asserting my parenting role by insisting on (and having) overnight stays with my S8.
One night per week was OK with nj/stbx.
Two nights per week started to cause tension.
Attempting to get and build a history of three nights per week has resulted in clever push back and mud slinging by nj/stbx and opposing counsel.
Three nights per week must be infringing on nj/stbx's plan for continued financial domination.
I now have counsel to carry on with a < parenting time > hearing that the former counsel abandoned.
I'm expecting nj/stbx to offer EoW < parenting time > next week as a starting point -- typical low ball offer that husbands receive. nj/stbx and opposing counsel ignored and rejected previous offers made in Jan, Feb, March, and April. My starting point for negotiations has always been noon Thur to noon Monday and noon Wed to noon Thur. (5 days bi-weekly).
For nj/stbx it's a money game to see how much she can milk out of me by using # of overnight visits to justify a higher share of the marital estate in equitable distribution and spousal support. Same crap that many others here get nailed with.
My nj/stbx cost me around USD 8,000 per fornication session.
My nj/stbx had this in mind (and still does) for me: the manipulated man by Esther Vilar
"Husband pays" quote from my stbx