She wants to take kids for fathers day

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Re: She wants to take kids for fathers day

Postby justlarry » Tue Apr 24, 2012 8:48 pm

jumbledone wrote:Per the agreement (unsigned right now, but have been unofficially observing it), Mother's day and Father's day are outlined that the kiddos should spend the day with the respective parent.


Jumbledone, Custody is either Done (Signed by a Judge and enforceable) or NOT Done (Not signed by a Judge and not enforceable on either party. Your quote sounds like being a little pregnant. No such thing. You are or you are not.

I am talking from experience. I did not see my kids the first Fathers day. Because we did not have a Judge signed agreement she just disapeared with the kids before I came home from work on Friday and there was absolutely nothing I could do about it. Without a Custody Order signed by a Judge either parent can run off with the kids without telling the other. I would nail that down with a judges signature before Mothers day unless you take the chance of not seeing your kids on Fathers day.
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Re: She wants to take kids for fathers day

Postby Bubba Seal » Wed Apr 25, 2012 10:10 am

Ditto what Larry said, until its signed by you, her and the judge it doesnt mean anything.

Good Luck

PS, I wouldnt rush to sign it just over Fathers Day, make sure its what you want in total first, it will be hard to go back and change it, and cost more. Try to keep your emotions in check on this while you are dealing with it.
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Re: She wants to take kids for fathers day

Postby Gdad » Wed Apr 25, 2012 1:14 pm

Did I miss something? Did she offer you anything to compensate for giving up your weekend? Switch weekend? Extra "other" time?

If it's your weekend and Father's Day, I wouldn't just give it up, but just be careful how much of a fight you want. It sounds like your divorce isn't over and you don't want to look/sound like an unreasonable @$$h0le if this goes to a judge.
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Re: She wants to take kids for fathers day

Postby Trevor » Wed Apr 25, 2012 1:22 pm

No father would look like a tool protecting his Fathers' Day time with his children. That's a pretty safe bet. On the contrary, a woman who'd make a big issue out of it could be seen as a lousy parent.
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Re: She wants to take kids for fathers day

Postby justlarry » Wed Apr 25, 2012 5:37 pm

Trevor wrote:No father would look like a tool protecting his Fathers' Day time with his children.


True, but right now he does not have any Fathers Day time. At least not enforceable.
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Re: She wants to take kids for fathers day

Postby jumbledone » Wed Apr 25, 2012 8:29 pm

Yeah, I don't have enforceable orders. I just need to get my < hindquarters > in gear to get it in front of the judge next month.

However, turn it around and she doesn't have orders to have them that weekend. Guess I pick them up from childcare and head to somewhere quiet and away. :)
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Re: She wants to take kids for fathers day

Postby justlarry » Thu Apr 26, 2012 11:02 pm

If there is not a signed court order hammered out by Fathers day then that certainly does sound like a good plan.
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Re: She wants to take kids for fathers day

Postby Thoughts? » Fri Apr 27, 2012 12:31 am

Jiumbled am kinda of torqued about your post. You didn't bother telling any one who was responding until well into this exchange that you had no enforceable right to Father's Day. Father's & Mother's Day are very enforceable in almost all jurisdictions, garbage in is garbage out, and that was just mis-leading.

You have no position. Clean up your orders and stop wasting our time asking for opinions with only half the relevant info that's needed to give you a clue. Pffft.

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