First I apologize for this being so long, but it's my story and predicament. So thanks in advance for bearing with me and reading.
I am married but have been living apart for 3 years. My wife left our marital home because we have a disabled daughter and she couldn't handle the daily requirements of caring for our child alone while I was at work. Said she needed help all day, not just when I got home from work. So she moved 2 hours away to her mom and dad's and has been living there ever since. We are not divorced, have not filed for divorce. We are married but live apart. She has never worked a job, even before our child was born. Since she left, I have given her money each month for food and other living expenses, all the while continuing to pay for all the bills we incurred together. Mortgage, vehicle notes, insurance, etc.
Now she has petitioned with the child support division in our state and is sueing me for child support. Let me state, I HAVE NO PROBLEM SUPPORTING MY CHILD, i WILL ALWAYS SUPPORT MY CHILD, I just want to make sure that I am being done fairly. I contend that when the amount of child support is computed, the marital bills that I am paying should be considered as I am the only supporter of the family, thus lowering my child support. But I don't know if this is a valid argument and I have a case. I just don't know what to do. any advice is appreciated.