Thoughts? wrote:There are bits missing. Who has primary? Her? If you have 50-50 but the kids really reside with you 75%, why is she picking the schools, if you have true joint? Or is this the issue you want to correct?
It is true joint. However, since I still reside in their current school district, I get the kids after they get home from school on her days. Then she picks them up when she finishes work at 6 PM. And then she drops them off in the morning for school. So, in theory, I am the daycare provider on her days. I have provided more than 50% of their care this year and she has failed to meet the 50/50 obligation as I have paid for everything. i.e. school lunches, field trips, baseball, Karate. Next year there will be 2 different schools and 2 different start times which are 1 hour apart. She has no clue how she is going to manage that since she doesn't know where she will live after April 2012. So let's just say that I am a proactive parent and not a reactive one.
The Children are also being forced to sleep together when mt daughter's room is to filthy as she is 7 and shares it with a 17 year old. When the boyfriend comes over, we now have 4 kids, 2 adults, 2 cats and 1 dog in a 3 bedroom apt.
I don't want to take the kids away from her, because she is the fun mom and the kids love going over there. But she is not now, nor will she be ready in the future to give them a proper place to accommodate everyone. And her boyfriend has a house 70 miles away in another state. What is to stop her from filing an ex-parte order with some bogus crap and packing them up and moving to Jersey. If I get the same Judge as i did last time, then I will be victorious. Since the Judge has already scolded her about the living arrangements and the children sleeping with each other or with her.
And to top it off, the kids love telling me that they get to watch things over there that they are not allowed to watch at home. Ya know, like a 7/10 year old watching an unedited version of the exorcist or the entire Jack < hindquarters > series and the wonderful shows that their sister watches on MTV. Now I have poor Kylie always wanting short shorts, folding down her sweat pant, tight jeans, shirts that are too small so they can show skin. la la la.... maybe not a big deal to a lot of parents, but I will not have my Daughter in the bathroom at 14 sucking some high school boys < male genitalia > like her sister did because mom in reactive and not proactive. There is a lot more to the story.....